What It’s Like To Be In A Long Distance Relationship

– I am currently in a long
distance relationship. – For two and a half years
it was long distance. – The first was two years
and I am in one now. – We’ve dated for two years. Then we dated a year long distance. Then we lived together for a year and then we did six months or so long distance before it ended. – We were long distance for a year. What It’s Like To Be In A
Long Distance Relationship – The hardest part is feeling that nobody else thinks that what you’re doing is sustainable. – You don’t have to
plan your day around it, but you definitely have
to make extra effort. – So there’d be a lot of issues as far as communication where I’m not willing to
Skype for three hours. – We still call each other
– Sometimes. – like every three days, I’d say. – You run out of things
to say on the phone. “How was your day?” “It was fine.” Like, “Did anything happen?” It’s like, “No, not really,” like, “It was just like a normal day.” And so then there’s silence. – What was special about my day and how did it change me and how can I share that
with the other person? – Even if you’re just sitting in the car driving someplace in silence, you’re together and you feel that. And you don’t have that when you’re in a long
distance relationship and you’re trying to
artificially recreate it but silence over the phone is, I mean, it’s nothing, right? Silence in person means something. – You fall in love and
it’s hard and it’s like, will I connect with
someone like this again? And is it worth it? – When you really like someone or even love someone, it makes it worth it. – You’re constantly asking yourself, “Is it worth it?” And I feel like I learn something new every time I ask myself that question. – I mean, it wasn’t worth it, right? Cause we broke up. So. – But, we were never like,
– But. – this is ending our relationship. – Yeah. – It was just, this sucks, that this is our relationship right now. – Really when it comes down to it any your relationship ends, when either one person
stops caring about the other or both people give up. – I think the key to doing
a long distance relationship is having an end in sight. – Like a date, she would move in, – Mmhmm.
– we would move in together in July, so, we knew that. – And then we did. – We did.
– Woooo. – You really learn about communication and how to stay open with someone. – It made us also, like, not dwell as much on, like,
little arguments anymore, unless you forget to bring
your girlfriend potatoes (laughing)
from the German restaurant. She will drill it home for an hour at you. This happened last night. – Waiting, you know, several days before you can even talk or Skype with the other person. Or waiting months before
you can hug them again. It’s hard (giggling). – It makes you appreciate loving someone when you can see them everyday. – Aaaww.
– Mmhmm. – So sweet. (lips smacking) – [Man] I had some– – [Woman] I texted him twice to ask for these potatoes
– No you texted me once. – after work.
– about the potatoes. – They’re good potatoes. – They’re so good. But I wouldn’t know because I didn’t have them yesterday. – Yep.

Michael Martin

100 Responses

  1. probably one of the most painful things is hearing someone say "are you sure they aren't cheating on you or if they even really like you?", because even though you trust them with all your heart and love them there is still the thought of it in the back of your mind

  2. it's been 2 years and Idk when this will end but I won't give up. ldr sucks. but it teaches you how far love can go

  3. I'm in a LDR right now and it is hard, but when my baby is done his last semester he is moving closer can't wait 😊

  4. Its really tough to be in a long distance relationship….every now n den its the feeling of distances which keeps on pinching 😞…the tough time is need of hug which u have to artificially imagine 😞 but the hope of diminishing the distances keeps u cheer up & motivated the whole time ❤️😍

  5. i've been in a long distance relationship for 5 months and we've already planned our future together (we're even going to the same university and he's moving a lot closer to me in 11 months )

  6. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 months and its been the most incredible 3 months ever. He's 19 and I'm 15. He's in Arizona and I'm in New Zealand. Yes, its extremely hard but when you meet them its the best feeling. On top of this, he's Muslim with really strict parents and I'm an atheist. It feels like nobody understands how incredible he is and how much he truly does love me but we make it work, I'd never have it any other way ❤

  7. Ive gotten myself on relationships before with people in my town. Everything was bad. Then I meet him. He is perfect. But hes 329 miles away from me. I love him and ig u could say that we are in love BC it feels different and I like it. Its sad BC there people that are together that don't love each other. And there's us. We love each other but we can't be together. I get to see him in 2020 two years 11 months and two weeks from today. I miss him sometimes even Doe we never seen each other in real person. I meet him in the Internet btw. Its very special and for me I am thankful for meeting him even though everyday is a constant struggle. I think its worth it. Ik feelings might fade but I am going to enjoy this as much as I can.

  8. Man, if it is love then it is worth it. I really don't get how you could "give up" just because you can't kiss or hug etc. a person for a few months. You can show love in so many different ways and you can enjoy your time with your loved one in so many different ways. Sometimes I just like playing a video game with my ldr boyfriend or just talk, talk no sense, talk all that there s about the univerese to be talked about. I just love it, I love him

  9. We started through a random site “Tagged” in 2009. Dated for 1 yr. Got engaged in 2010 and finally got married with God’s blessings in 2011.
    1) Getting to know each other culture was exciting.
    2) slow internet speed was very frustrating.
    3) Trust and sacrifices were something, which hold is together during LDR.
    4) It was not only socially but administrative (international laws) were also challenging but we made it !

  10. Completed one year of long distance relationship. Three more years of it to go :'v We miss each other a lot. I get to see him three or four times in a year. Distance sucks, but he is worth it all 🙂 We completed two years of our relationship few days ago :'3 We are going strong. 🌹
    I wouldn't trade it for anything. I love it and I love him 🙂

  11. I never thought I would do LDR. I’m roughly 8,000 miles away and I miss him sooo much. Time zones make it worse also:///

  12. I enjoyed watching this. I'm currently in a long distance relationship, or at least it feels like it (my partner lives 4 hours away). We do have weekends planned together and we're both looking to move a little closer to each other. I am hopeful and so is he.

  13. I'm in a Ldr right now and what Garret said I kind of relate to the most. My partner often wants to call and I'll be hesitant to only because when we do, he doesn't say much and there's long periods of silence. Like idk maybe it doesn't bother him but It's a little uncomfortable to just sit in silence and I start to get these thoughts of "an I being boring" "should I say something" "what can I talk about?". I really do love him but it's the communication that is rly my only concern as to what I can do to improve it.

  14. Long distance sucks. My first, and so far only relationship, ended Long distance. What sucks the most is when it ends because the other party couldn't do the distance. I was completely ready to move in with him in a year. But he wasn't up for that.

  15. I had a long distance relationship for a year and a half but we broke up recently. This reminded me of us. I love skyping with him but always ended up crying when I could only see him on the screen without being able to touch him ir hold him. It teared me up!

  16. There is Geared being so sad and deep and then there is keith and his gf/fiance and i feel gearred and i love these two

  17. It’s difficult but when I finally found a gamer like me I was super happy after that we texted to play splatoon and after 3 months I asked him he said yes now we’re waiting for a year or two to see each other for the first time

  18. my long distance boyfriend is actually really nice. my parents won't let me go online on weekdays. so he would wait all week until we can talk again during the weekends. i love him. we cherish the moments we spend together. 😊

  19. I was in a relationship with the perfect girl for almost a year and I gave up when it became long distance. It takes a lot for me to watch videos like this because I know deep down I regret not trying harder. Looking back I realize I know I will never find anyone like her again. It hurts but you learn from your mistakes. If you really care about somebody and love them don't give up. When I saw her for the first time in person again 6 months later it really hit me.

  20. I'm in a long distance relationship and we live 8,800 miles apart i live in Australia and he lives in Canada. I'm stuggling I really want to see him, plus he isnt able to talk today because he has a big test at school and the time difference is hard to deal with.

  21. “…Waiting months to even hug them again.” My bf and I are both 16 and it’s been 18 months since I’ve seen him. I won’t be able to see him until the summer time. We both live about 2 hours away from each other. Hardest thing I’ve gone through but it’s totally worth it.

  22. I'm in a ldr and I've just left my boyfriend at the train station and come home. Currently crying into his jumper he left me 🙁 it helps to know others are going through this too

  23. I'm in one and our anniversary was yesterday and we've been together for 8 months and I am so happy with him, he makes me so happy 💕 we've known each other siince we were babies and he's my best friend and I moved out here when I was 6 and then I went back home for the summer and we connected and it was amazing planing on going back in a couple months 💕

  24. When that girl said "you won't be able to hug them" I instantly broke down knowing that I will be be in that position soon 😢😢💑

  25. Being in a long distance relationship would need two strong people ready to face the distance that will separate them. I adore all the couples who are away from each other yet still has the same amount of love for each other.

  26. met my man online five years ago, talk every single day on skype 🙂 (longest call was 111hours lmao). still 3 more to go till we meet

  27. Its sucks…… Literally…….last year he was here with me.. And now "Babe… Exams r not done yet!!"

  28. I date a man who is sweet and kind and strong willed but sometimes its hard because sometimes my insecurities come into play but i have to check that.

  29. going on 15 months with my gf i love her more than anything in this world im from north carolina and shes from canada but we dont let that stop us from believing that one day will actually be together forever

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  31. im in a long distance relationship and sure sometimes you may have nothing to say but just being there each doing there own thing in silence is still something. me and my boyfriend stay on call me reading or doing my stuff and him playing his video games and it still feels like we are present in each other's company cause i can just "nudge" him out of the blue and he'll be there to reply and vice versa. one thing we end up a lot and at 1st i would feel awkward cause i would be doing my own thing and out of the blue i look at my phone and he's there just staring at me ahahah we just end up spending sometime in silence looking in each other's eyes and even with the distance it raises so much the level of intimicy. sometimes he's playing his games and im reading and i just put down the book and sit there admiring him and listening to him ramble with the game. its all about feeling present, being there doing what you would be doing if there was no distance.

  32. Well we are not in a relationship but we definitely like each other. I believe in patience & learning more of eachother. Even though we've been friends since high school. I live in Cali & he is in new york. He is a hard working person & I don't want to slow him down because I'm not emotionally and financially stable. I refuse to let him do all the work 😔

  33. I hate LD……. So so much. My boyfriend is over 7,000 miles away. We can barley see each once a year for only a couple weeks…. When he left my heart was broken in two. I've felt so lonely and empty since. You get used to waking up next to them every single day… Then you drop them off at the airport and that night you can't sleep then the next morning when you open your eyes they're not there and your once tiny bed feels huge. Every day and night i pray time will go fast…. Even though I'll never know when im gonna see him again. It could be in 6 months or it could be a year or two. Sometimes i just want to scream as loud as i can to take out this frustration and to let go of the pain i feel from missing him. If You're boyfriend/girlfriend is across town, in the next city or in the next state you have no idea how incredibly lucky you are that they are so close… Even if you only see them once a month

  34. Even if you break up, it's worth it. If you really feel in your gut that you love this person until the end, go for it. Going with your heart is never ever wrong. If you BOTH promise to care and put effort and don't give up it will work. But you haaaaave to be committed. Talking on the phone will get better, it'll come naturally if you really love them. Love is so worth the way it makes you feel, and if you don't feel it in your gut that long distance will work, then it won't. You have to believe, you have to find the right person, you have to stay strong and make time. But loving someone is oh so worth it.

  35. I met a guy online. We ended up messaging, then we exchanged phone numbers about a week later. Legit, we talked for 9 hours a day often. No awkward silences. No arguing about distance. Just good vibes. Neither of us were working steady jobs at the time so we could do that. We made our plans official & he ended up moving in with me 2500 miles away from a one way flight. We were married 3 months later. 8.5 years later & I don't regret it. From meeting til marriage it was 8 months.

  36. My boyfriend I were together for a year when he told me he wanted to join the Army. I wish we could do things like Skype and call, right now we get to text about an hour a day if we're lucky. He's coming home for Christmas and I can't wait

  37. I have been i ldr more than year now… its very hard. Every time we flight to each other its the best, but when we say goodbye at the airport its the morst saddest thing…crying 24/7. And we don't meet that much. Waiting 2 months or more than that.But the best thing its we are talking to each other everyday 24/7 and this year 2019, he is going to move to me. I been waiting for this time…. and I'm so excited🙏🏼😭

  38. I tried this, and the moment I moved closer to be with him was when he decided to become distant towards me. I tried to talk to him to see what was wrong, and the response I got was that the only person he was opened to was his ex. He also came up with the excuse that he couldn't find a job and that I shouldn't take it personal if he doesn't talk to me. Well, I gave him a month to pull his head out of his butt, and he didn't so I deleted him and disappeared from his life. Haven't heard from him since, and it's been four months now so I guess that means he was never really interested and I wasted my time and effort for nothing. I'm sure he's found somebody else though. Plus I have to look at it this way. We never met up to go on a real date anyway.

  39. Been in a LDR with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years (800 miles) and only get to see each other 2 or 3 times a year. Frontier Airlines flies in the US for super cheap, usually not more than 200


  41. My friends think i have a virtual boyfriend, he doesn't exists and maybe he is some old person who makes me talk to his son 😂😂

  42. Starting a long distance relationship with my boyfriend today. We’re college students so it’s only for the summer but we’ve only been dating for 3 months so a 3 month LDR is going to be pretty difficult but completely doable

  43. I’m in a LDR but I’m from United States and he is from South Korea. That 6,464 miles is hard but he is always worth it.

  44. I'm currently in an ldr relationship. We are both currently in highschool. I'm a sophomore and he's a junior. Everyone says it wont work out because of the distance but him and I are so hopeful for the future that we'd rather do hard with one another than easy with anyone else. Also we have the plan that once I graduate we are going to live together since he'll be in the military and I'm doing online culinary school

  45. It sucks it awful not advisable.
    Guys don't do it unless you want torture . run for your life I say it again ruuuuuuuuuuun.

  46. I've texted my boyfriend every day and called almost every night since we met? We've never run out of things to say and we're almost at our one year anniversary.

  47. LDR for 4 years. He’s in the navy just started building his military career. We’re getting married soon!!! No more LDR!!!

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  49. Distance relationships are real. When people say these relationships are stupid and ridiculous, well it’s your opinion, but I won’t change my mind. I am in love. Been in a long distance relationship since 4 years.

  50. Did 5000 miles of long distance for 3.5 years. We were supposed to get married this year, but it kind of snapped. That's that.

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