The First Step to Intimacy in Marriage | Dave and Ashley Willis


We know that God designed marriage.
We know what he says about marriage. And yet we get so afraid to completely be
vulnerable with our spouse, but God designed us as vulnerable creatures. You
know, we’re designed first and foremost to be vulnerable with God – we don’t hide
things from God he knows it all anyway but he wants us to come to him, and to
give it all to him, to surrender everything to him. And as far as human
relationships go, marriage is the biggest place – the biggest relationship
we can have where we can be vulnerable with one another. And when we are, it just
binds our hearts, and like they said, it’s really the first step to intimacy. And
you really can’t have the kind of physical intimacy that God wants you to
have in marriage without having vulnerability first. And so, you know, if we’re
not willing to be vulnerable with our spouse, we still have that desire, and so
what we’ll find is: we’ll be vulnerable with someone else and like they said
we’ll step out of bounds of the marriage. We’ll have maybe a person at work that
we find easy to talk to and we step out of bounds and we start sharing our
hearts with them instead of with our spouse. Or maybe we form a co-dependent
relationship with one of our children. I know people who are more vulnerable and
open and honest with their children than they are with their spouse and that is
completely out of whack. That is not what God designed and really it’s too much to
put on our kids – even if they’re grown. We’re supposed to be vulnerable with our
spouse so it’s so important that we don’t hold back. We’ve got to give it all
and share it all and say, “This is me. This is what I’m feeling and I’m not ashamed
to share it with you because I love you and I trust you.”

Michael Martin

5 Responses

  1. Non of this stuff works if you realize your married to an abusive man. They will use everyone of your vulnerabilities against you. Everytime. It may be the road to intimacy with normal ppl, but with abusive self centered people, its the worst thing to do.

  2. This only works if you trust your spouse and feel emotionally safe with them. It is not a ' one size fits all' situation.

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