Ashley: I would definitely say our love is extreme love. Not everybody can handle what it takes to have a three person relationship. Keila: There’s people that are going to judge of course because of peoples religion. Deborah: That’s my daughter, why did I not know this? I had to deal with all that. I prayed, I cried, I blamed myself, “How did I not see this?” “What did I do wrong?” Ashley: My name is Ashley and this is my husband Matt and my wife Keila. Ashley: For us it’s a polytriad, and we are a closed triad. So we are, basically in a poly relationship with three people instead of regular monogamist relationship with two people. Keila: Everything’s equal, but like there’s no one first wife, second wife. And our kids are all treated equally, I’m so sorry this could … Can we go tell him to Matt: Yeah we have eight kids but we have three adults plus two grandparents in the house. Keila: I had four kids before Matt and Ashley and then when me and Matt and Ashley met, they only had three at the time Ashley got pregnant with Julian, and then we kind of just… blended in. We have eight kids in the house. Ashley: There’s more love more kids, more… more fun, more… happy times, more playing. Lots of help to … get each other around and … take care of what needs to be done. Can I eat some? Keila: No you’ve got to cook these. Ashely: I basically was the one who brought up us all being in a poly relationship together. I had only ever been with Matt since I was a teenager. and I had always been kind of curious about women as well for different reasons. We were going through alot of things, we kind of always had our ups and downs. me and Matt. I … thought maybe it would be a good idea to try something completely different. It led to be … him introducing me to Keila and us all hitting it off. Matt: We sleep in the same bed. We have since the beggining. We never had our own bedrooms or anything like that, because that would cause alot of jealousy as well. We just … try to keep it down to a minimum by that. sexual pleasures are definitely alot more winners, three people involved, I feel like Kaila shows me just as much love as Ashley, and Ashley shows me, as much as love as she shows to Keila, so … I think it’s pretty well rounded. Ashley: I would say that my parents are really shocked, by all of this. I never really … disclosed to anyone that I was interested in both women and men. so I think that was kind of more of the obstacle for them to wrap their head around. Deborah: I am Ashley’s mother, Matt’s mother in law … And Keila’s … bonus mom I guess. Honestly I freaked out, that, that style of relationship is not I mean I’m old school, so it was hard for me to … comprehend something like that. I was kind of surprised that my daughter had and interest even in women, her and her husband had been together since they were 15 years old. So it was hard for me to … I guess I was angry at myself that I didn’t … that I didn’t realise it after all these years. That’s my daughter, why did I not know this? And I had to deal with all that. Matt: It’s always been a man and a woman, or it’s just a man or just a woman. and … I think that idea comes from religion alot and it’s forced upon people and that’s why religious people look at us like we’re very bad people, we didn’t do anything different than, a monogamous relationship There’s just three people that are involved with this. I don’t care what people think, we’re still going to do it if we want to. that’s … just how we are. Deborah: That kind of thing was just hard for me to deal with. Took me a little bit of time and I adjusted, I had to … do some soul searching, you know, it’s making her happy. It’s what she wants, and that’s what’s important. Yeah, I still have a little bit of hair that comes up on the back of my neck, when I see them be affectionate to each other. But it’s it’s, this is the 21st century I guess, it’s what it is. Keila: Before I met Matt, My life was … it was the life of a single parent because I worked full time and I took care of my four kids on my own. We just started talking more and more and … took off. At the beginning I was a little bit nervous about introducing the kids to Matt and Ashley. I was very scared of how I was going to be, looked at how my children would look at me. I did talk to my children about it and they kind of like kind of weird about it, because you know, a child doesn’t understand. They go to school, thinking they’re just going to have mom and dad, and mom and dad only, little by little my family kind of came around. We’re just a normal, typical, family. I don’t see anything different. Joel: I have three brothers and … four sisters. I’m older than all of them. I have two moms. It was kind of weird at first, you know, I don’t care what people think. it’s just how they are. And everyone’s different in the world. So I wouldn’t really say there’s drawbacks of a poly relationship so much. I mean, there’s obstacles that… we go through for sure. Some of the funny challenges are things like you know, school and doctors and, you know, explaining a step mom and a step dad. Matt: It’s the same thing as a regular relationship. We go through same things, we have fights, we have jealousies… obviously, a lot more jealousies with us, because there’s three of us. it feels like a normal relationship. Ashley: The three of us wouldn’t work without one of us. Keila: We love each other, we care for each other. We want to be there for each other and grow old together. So that’s what we want and… that’s what we’re going to do. Whether the world
likes it or not. I would definitely say our love is extreme love, not everybody can handle what it takes to have a three person relationship but… I wouldn’t say that it’s, it’s so extreme that nobodyelse should consider it. because it can be a really beautiful thing.