Marriage Counseling : How to Get Your Mother-In-Law to Shut the Hell Up


Hi, I’m Joe Cuenco with Family Resources.
We’re going to be talking about communication skills today. Specifically, how do we get
our mother-in-law to shut the hell up? Dangerous ground. Just how do we get our mother-in-law
to shut the hell up? Now, the question. Well, duck tape works, duck tape works for everything.
As a matter of fact, my father used to put it on the rust spots on his car. But anyway,
the first thing that needs to happen, is, is have a dialog with your mother-in-law.
Just really understand what is causing her behavior? Why is she continuing to communicate
at you, perhaps badger you and come at you? Because, realistically, the, the issue or
the fault actually may be with you. The reason that she is continuing to badger you. Is it
a fault of yours, are you not taking the garbage out? Are you leaving your clothes all over
the place? Are you, somebody who’s irresponsible? So, you really need to take a look at, at
your behaviors, and find out if it’s your behaviors that’s causing your mother-in-law
to have these issues, or these patterns. And then, correct that, and then that way you
can just eliminate that. They say that you can pick your friends, but not your family,
and that’s true. In a situation like this, it really may require you to sit down and
compromise with your mother-in-law. It may be better for you, your family situation,
and the situation with your wife. Ultimately, one or, one or you is going to have to, to
compromise and give up. So, the dialog needs to take place first, communication has to
take place, and understanding needs to take place, and, and have mutual respect between
one another. Mutual respect needs to be established and that can be build upon. So, once you build
a friendship, mutual respect, and have a dialog, it may be a way to help your mother-in-law,
shut the hell up. I’m Joe Cuenco with Family Resources, relationships for life.

Michael Martin

7 Responses

  1. i know exactly how you feel. i don't know if mine mil talks crap about me to everyone she comes into contact with, but i have heard her before. and my husband will not defend me because he's so freaking scare he will offend his mom and his brother and sisters. but he don't give a sh*t about my feelings. i would totally say divorce to a husband who can't stand up to his own wife.

  2. But… what business is it of hers if she doesn't like something I do??? Mutual respect is not about bagering someone to change or changing yourself so someone else actually likes you! REDICULOUS
    You, sir, obviously don't know what it's like… AT ALL!

  3. So if your NIL is badgering you and being disrespectful, you are supposed to just think about what you are going wrong? What a bunch of crap. If you are doing something wrong, she can tell you respectfully. Some people are just RUDE and want to be disrespectful to their DIP for no reason, just because they don't like her.

  4. What an effing Joke, I have done nothing but be nice and do her bidding but it still is hell she even goes behind my back and messes with our finances I made the mistake of letter her do our taxes the first year my wife and I were married she was still nice at that point and now she has my info, she has a lot of money and people bend over for her. I don't know what to do anymore my wife is scared to stand up to her and it is causing problems between us now she just won't leave us alonE

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