Identify the 3 causes for conflicts in relationships | Raseshwari Devi Ji I Sanatan Questions – 33


Being possessed by the three modes of material nature, all beings are similar. In fact, they should always behave in a cordial manner with each other. But, generally, there are conflicts with each other, creating an environment of sorrow and tension. Why does this happen? This internal world – how is it? Characterised by the three Modes of Material Nature. Sattva Guna (Mode of Goodness), Rajo Guna (Mode of Passion) and Tamo Guna (Mode of Ignorance). These are found in everyone – husband, wife, children, neighbours…. Is there a time limit for these Gunas to work that in the early morning (Brahma Muhurta), Sattva Guna will prevail; in the afternoon, Rajo Guna, and in the night, Tamo Guna? No! No! No! Any of these modes of nature can arise and for any duration. And, influenced by these modes of nature, we make resolutions, and give our opinions. Therefore, accept some things in life. The chaos that happens inside us “Oh! What to tell you? He never listens to me; he does not act according to my likes.” This is the tension you have ‘No one listens to me. No one acts favourably towards me.” You are forever troubled by this. So, follow the principle behind this that till the three Gunas exist in all beings, no one can be favourable towards another. When the Gunas are the same in people, then they love each other. When the Gunas are different, then conflict arises If you possess Sattva Guna and your wife too possesses Sattva Guna, then, there is balance. If one possesses Sattva Guna and the other, Rajo Guna, conflict will arise. This happens daily. And you keep worrying, “Why don’t we get along with each other? We just cannot be friendly with each other. Just look at our neighbours. The couple there get along so well.” Oh! This is just an illusion. No one gets along with each other. There are clashes everywhere. It may appear externally that everything is fine but internally, nothing is. Some display the disagreements externally and some hide them. This is the only difference. Else this is a problem of everybody. Where there are these three Gunas, there will be problems. You may say, “If the Gunas are the same in two persons, then there should be friendship.” But here too, there is a problem. Even if the Gunas are the same, there is a difference in degree. Assume, Sattva Guna is predominant in two people. Both came to the discourse. Both are friends. Both came and sat here. But the degree of Sattva Guna is more in one Now, both are listening to the discourse. The one in which Sattva Guna is more, used to come every day. This person knows the link between the daily discourses that “Today, the preacher will explain this topic; this topic has been missed by me; I had this query which will be answered etc.” But the other person (in whom Sattva Guna is less) came for the first day. He heard the discourse but couldn’t understand anything. He has Sattva Guna so he is sitting to hear the discourse. But after a while, he tells his friend, “Ae! Ae!” The friend asked, “What is it?” He replies, “We should leave now.” The friend says, “I will hear the entire discourse and only then leave.” He again replies, “I am unable to understand anything. I am getting bored. I am not liking this. Get up!” The friend tells him, “Just sit! What will you do at home? Eat and sleep! Sit for some more time!” Now how will the poor fellow sit? Because whatever little Sattva Guna was there was being exhausted then and a new Guna was arising. How will he sit? The moment the man’s Sattva Guna of that time was exhausted, he stood up. He said to his friend, “You sit if you want. I am leaving.” And he got up and went. So, why did this happen? Sattva Guna was present in both but there was a difference in degree. So, if there is the same Guna present but there is a difference in degree, then again, there would be conflict. Therefore, reinforce this principle inside you that as long as these three Gunas are present, no being can act in accordance with another person’s desires! According to the Gunas, adjustments keep getting made in our lives. If you internalise this principle, then fifty percent of your conflicts will cease. The problem lies here – that we don’t understand this principle. We do not internalise this knowledge. We just get entangled in problems. “Why did this happen?” There is a reason. This is the reason. That is why this happened. No being can act according to another person. Everyone will be unfriendly. If they act favourably then it is a matter of surprise.

Michael Martin

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  1. हम साधक को क्यों निर्गुणी बनना है, पूजनीय देवी जी ने बड़े ही प्रभावी ढंग से समझाया है राधे राधे।

  2. Jai Radhe Jai Radhe Radhe!
    Jai Radhe Jai Shree Radhe !!!
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    Jai Radhe Jai Radhe Radhe!
    Jai Radhe Jai Shree Radhe !!!
    Jai Radhe Jai Radhe Radhe!
    Jai Radhe Jai Shree Radhe !!!
    Jai Radhe Jai Radhe Radhe!
    Jai Radhe Jai Shree Radhe !!!
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  4. माँ हम इस संसार से निकलना चाहते है,वृन्दावन वास
    अकेले नहीं परिवार को लेकर,,
    हम धर्मपत्नी है,,वह इस संसार को भोगना चाहते है, हम क्या करे,कृपा करे

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