I Kept My African Traditions In My English Wedding | World Wide Wed | Refinery29


I think it’s important to keep cultural
traditions alive. Being sort of British/African, we wanted something
that combined both cultures together. But we wanted to have Anglo-African fusion
because that’s what we are, but also for our little boy as well. He’s a mixture of the two cultures. If I sort of think about what Sean’s mum
has said to me, she said, “I love, you know, African culture, you know, I’m getting to
experience African culture, and combining it with the British culture is just amazing.” There’s a lot of value with appreciating
what different people bring to each other, and there’s a lot of fun about it. Having our son and other people understand
that no culture’s better than each other, it’s about understanding both sides and
respecting both sides. Yes, I totally agree with that. It’s very different, and it’s been really interesting learning about, you know, Mide’s
culture. The bit that I’m gonna be most nervous about
is the speeches, because I know that I’m gonna feel quite emotional on the day. My sons are my best men. Seeing them doing the speeches… Yeah. I’m a practicing Christian and so it was
important that I spoke to the vicar and it was done in church. We are going with a harp and flute player,
because it will be something quite sentimental. Lots of bright color. Burnt orange, and purple, some prints, that
really gives that African-ness. The elusive nature of love itself means that
today is a gift. Love is what we’ve come here to witness
today. Love for these two. You may kiss the bride! Where I’m originally from in Sierra Leone,
it’s all about music, it’s all about dancing, and drumming is a significant part of that. There’s also dancing in; dancing in will
be very important. There you go! Lots of music, lots of dancing. Lots of African food is going to also be really
important. There’s a particular sweet we have in Sierra
Leone called granat cake. And basically it’s peanuts. We’ve got a lady who knows how to make huge sculptures out of it. Sean and I saw it and we were like “wow,
this is just absolutely spot on!” Growing up with significant people in our
lives, Sean’s dad and my brother, and they’ve passed away, one of the things we are going
to have at the wedding is remembering those individuals who were quite close to us. Within Sierra Leonian culture you also have godparents that will be guardians of your
marriage. The idea is they’re the individuals who
look after your marriage, and if you ever have an argument, they’re the person that
would be supporters. We’ve gone with two godmothers. They’re both my aunt, and they both love
Sean, so I don’t think I will ever be supported. They’ll be supporting him. No, I was quite happy with the choice of godparents. What they tend to do in Sierra Leone is something
cool, giving of water. Both mothers would give water to the bride
and groom, and you know, give them their blessing. The way that your family has embraced us,
you know, this real sort of community feel and openness of feelings and emotions, it’s
not really a very English way of doing things. I hope they appreciate the introduction, or
reintroduction of Africa. You do tend to see a lot of negative in the
media, and just to see a different feel of the fusion that we’re trying to create. Yes, it’s been brilliant. Thanks for watching World Wide Wed. Subscribe to Refinery29 to never miss an episode.

Michael Martin

100 Responses

  1. This is actually what we are going to do in our wedding next year ๐Ÿ˜Š Sierra Leonean and danish tradition mix together. Wow canโ€™t believe she is Sierra Leonean just like me ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

  2. I just love all the white people that went out their way to marry blacks itโ€™s amazing and I give them respect ๐Ÿ’ฏ

  3. So for everyone who chose to push the amount of love these two clearly share to the side, to highlight exactly how many minutes and seconds it took to mention her culture needs to calm down. They never even spoke about HIS culture and THEIR traditions. It's about the LOVE guys.

  4. I hate when they use text when most Africans are talking . It is very patronizing. We understand them without it. They rarely do it for Europeans and Anglo americans

  5. It was such a beautiful wedding!! I loved how the bright colored complimented the black womens skin color! But as many here say Africa is a continent filled with so many different countries and cultures! Its like saying โ€ european traditionโ€ well are we talking about greece or sweden ya know but you guys can learn and do better next time ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ

  6. OK I am waiting to see the baby… The positive side of these interracial marriages produce a new unique children's
    1.the baby will be born with super strength
    2. And more handsome, healthy everything th baby deserves.
    Love these kind of marriages.. God bless you

  7. It took WAAAAAY to long to find out which part of Africa she is from. Why is this always the case?! There was an Indian wedding featured on this channel and for them we got a map showing exactly which part of India they were from. And in that instance we were told right from the beginning that even though they were both Indian and both Hindu, the cultures and traditions are very different. Why couldn't the same be done here?!? Honestly it's infuriating, belittling and just sad that this is STILL the case for "Africans" ๐Ÿ˜ค Refinery29 please do better!
    Oh and wft was up with the selective subtitles?!?

  8. Why people just cant keep their everything in their thing i mean if u want to keep your culture than preferring to marry with someone who is also what you are is a bit more intelligent move and if u orefer to not and try the other way then excuses but there has to be exceptions that man has a culture too, beautiful lady

  9. This was a bit confusing. The bride kept referring to her culture as "African Culture" but it's like what country are you from. Africa is a continent, and has so many different cultures within it. Like someone from the UK wouldn't say they have european culture, they would say British

  10. For half of the video we didnโ€™t even know what country theyโ€™re are talking about. Africa Africa smh ๐Ÿ™„

  11. Nice video but why subtitle the Africans speaking?Their English was good and we could understand it.Stop being so patronising Refinery29.

  12. Just so you know, I understood the bride's family just fine without the subtitles. That's just me though.

  13. Instead of just saying โ€œAfricanโ€ can you please say what country? Africa has many countries and they all have their own beautiful and unique cultures

  14. As much as I understand the need to preserve one's culture, it is important to be accurate. There is NO African culture as much as there is NO European culture… I am not sure how generalization helps improve the knowledge of each other culture… My 2-cents

  15. I hope that every culture on the planet gets blended so much that no one has any identity. Thats how we know we have succeeded in true globalism.

  16. Beautiful but not sure why this is news? Of the 4 weddings I've been to in my life, 3 of them were a fusion of two or more cultures to reflect the bride and groom's respective backgrounds.

  17. What a beautiful couple. What a beautiful marriage. It's so lovely to see two cultures and families coming together. All the best to them xx

  18. I can totally understand why Sean did not want to dance in, I felt a little embarrassed just watching him! LoL

  19. The bride ๐Ÿ‘ฐ๐Ÿพ is Sierra Leonean ๐Ÿ‡ธ๐Ÿ‡ฑ๐Ÿ‡ธ๐Ÿ‡ฑ๐Ÿ˜๐ŸŽถ๐Ÿ˜Š

  20. You can actually say
    Sierra Leone.
    Sierra Leone
    Sierra Leone
    Sierra Leone
    Sierra Leone
    Africa is such a big place. It's a whole continent. When I meet people, I don't tell them I'm African. I am Nigerian; Yoruba. We need to speak culturally and politically correct, if not, people who know nothing about Africa would think it is a country.
    The thing that makes us all Africans, is the diversity in our different cultures. It is not just our colours.
    I love the culturally display here. Congratulations on your wedding,muah!

  21. Africa is a continent with millions of cultures, so much so that even my country Nigeria has different cultures!! Whoever uploaded this video has to be specific next time, as Africa is a continent and not a country so itโ€™s only natural that there will be different cultures within.

  22. I recently got married to my English husband and we also infused the dancing in, giving of blessings and the headtie to our wedding. The feedback was phenomenal. It was indeed a celebration and unique experience for all present. Iโ€™m so glad that we did. Thank you for echoing the same sentiments, we need more celebrations of the positives of interracial couples in the British society

  23. Africa is a continent,why not specify the country sheโ€™s from as you did with him,clearly stating he was English and not title it European wedding.

  24. Beautiful wedding. Her dress was gorgeous and her now husband is so handsome. He looks like a actor or someone I seen before. Beautiful couple. Congratulations to you both. ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿพโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

  25. I find it a bit ridiculous how when some of black peoples spoke there was subtitles but none for the grooms mum

  26. She looked beautiful walking down the aisle and I love the fact that they had so many cakes at the reception. ๐Ÿ™‚

  27. I should have been at that wedding!
    How come I wasnโ€™t invited???
    Love โค๏ธ Love your Beautiful relationship and handsome Son โค๏ธ๐Ÿ˜˜

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