ENGLISH ADDICT – LESSON 007 – Wedding + Marriage Words – 20th November 2019

oh hello there welcome to a cold
windy freezing England and Here I am in the garden preparing something can you
guess what it is I will give you a clue it happens in December and lots of
people of all ages get very excited about it yes I am preparing for that
magical season we are just 35 days away from Christmas and I am now outside the
house putting up the Christmas lights as I do every single year I went up into
the Attic on Monday and I fetched all of my Christmas lights out of the Attic and
now I’m outside putting them up on the front of the house and I must be honest
with you it is absolutely freezing out here
I’ll be really pleased when I’ve finished doing this so I have lots of
Christmas lights I’ve put quite a few up already on the house and these are the
last ones to go up we will be taking a closer look at these a little bit later
on also of course I’ll be chatting live to you as well December is going to be a
very busy month because besides Christmas we also have a general
election taking place a few days before Christmas arrives thank you for joining
me today yes we are live across YouTube it’s another English addict and yes we
are definitely live there is no doubt about it
we are definitely live today oh hello there hi everybody this is mr. Duncan in
England how are you today are you okay I hope so are you happy well I hope you
are happy because we are all here again today it’s a little chilly here in the
UK as you may have seen during the countdown to today’s livestream let’s
have a look outside yes it is very cold chilly we’ve had a lot of wind this
morning and I’m not talking about my stomach so it’s very windy here in the
UK but as you can see it really does look quite colorful autumn is definitely
in the air as we always like to talk about the weather I wouldn’t be a
British person if I didn’t talk about the weather all the time so you might
notice that quite often on my live streams I will mention the weather
because between you and me I think it’s a very interesting subject
I really do I hope you have had a good week so far it isn’t Friday I’m sorry
about that it isn’t Thursday I do apologise
however we are halfway to the weekend yes it’s Wednesday do you do as you saw at the start of
today’s lesson I have had a very busy week I’ve been outside putting up the
Christmas decorations would you like to have a quick look so here it is here is
me outside putting up the Christmas decorations and I seem to be doing it
very quickly so there I am unpacking all of those lovely Christmas lights going
up onto the roof of the house very high up so all the neighbors can see my
lovely lights every year my neighbors say to me Duncan are you putting up your
Christmas lights yet so there I am on one of the roofs of my house and I’m
putting some of the string lights so those particular lights you can see
there are called stringed lights because they are a very long string so I’m
winding the lights around the railings at the front of the house and as you can
see I’m getting in a little bit of a tangle there one of the worst things
about putting Christmas lights up is quite often you will get into a terrible
tangling sometimes you cannot unravel or unwind the lights so it can be a very
difficult thing to do but there I seem to be doing quite a good job of it and
you can see there on that image just how cold it was when I was doing that and
now oh yes I am now unpacking the main lights so these lights are the stars of
the show there you can see a Christmas tree that will illuminate and also what
is in this box I wonder let’s a look shall we hurry up mr. Duncan open
the box oh that looks like a shooting star and it is so there I am on the roof
putting some of the lights up and we’ll have a little look at more of that later
on we will have another look at my my Christmas lights and all the work I’ve
been doing later on meanwhile it is live yes English addict for those who can’t
get enough of the English language just like me I am crazy about English I think
it is safe to say we have the live chat I can’t forget about the live chat so
hello to the live chatters hello to wife Fay Oh laughs eh I love your name by the
way laughs eh laughs Ian says hi
guess what congratulations you are first on today’s live chats can’t see that congratulations also a
big hello to Belarusian you are second almost first second today on the live
chat Martha is here also Cho business new Wynne is here as well in Vietnam
Cesar hello Cesar hail hail to you I’m sure I’m not the first person to do that
hello RHS Noemi hello people around the world yes one of the wonderful things
about doing this is we can speak to everyone or at least those who are
watching lots of people around the world saying hello right now including
sweetness Mitra thank you very much by the way for your lovely messages
sweetness I do appreciate them Eric hi mr. Danko and I wish a great day for
everyone I’ve had a busy morning because the heating in the house has been
suffering some problems so this morning we had an a heating engineer to come and
fix the boiler in the kitchen but he was there for so long I almost thought I
thought I was very worried that he would be a surprise guest on today’s
livestream fortunately he has gone but the problem was he kept talking he
wouldn’t stop talking so he was doing his work and then after he finished
repairing the boiler he started talking about all sorts of things which is okay
I have no problem with that if you want to have a conversation with me no
problem but all I kept thinking was I hope he goes soon I hope he leaves
because I have a lot of things to do so this morning I was rather distracted by
the man who came to fix my boiler but it is working now so the house is lovely
and warm I hope you are comfortable where you are hello – Pradeep hello also
– Anna hello Anna nice to see you here again hello also to
Vitesse watching in Lithuania as I mentioned at the start of today’s
livestream we have a very busy month approaching we are now it’s the 20th
isn’t it the 20th of November I’ve just realized something
do you know what I’ve realized I’ve just realized that Christmas is only 35 days
away doo-doo-doo-doo-doo-doo-doo Christmas is
on the way everybody get ready for Christmas time yes
christmas christmas is coming 35 days left before Christmas arrives are you
ready for the season that is Christmas mmm I wonder so I’m pretty excited and
as a way of showing just how excited I am here is me putting up the Christmas
lights would you like to have a look and also in this video I am going to explain
all about why we have Christmas lights and where they originate it this month is proving to be a busy one
for me I have been doing all sorts of things today I’m on the roof of my house
fixing some festive lights to the railings above my garage have you
noticed how important lights are during festivals and celebrations even the word
light can have a significant meaning we can see the light this means that we
have had a revelation if a person suddenly changes their mind about
something or they have a great idea we can say that they have seen the light
something that was unclear before can now be seen vividly and can be
understood well that person has seen the light these are called fairy lights they are
tiny lights that glow and twinkle fairy lights are often hung on Christmas trees
they create a magical atmosphere with their gentle glow some fairy lights
flash or blink some are white while others are
multicolored the name fairy lights dates back to the late 1800s and became
popular after they were used as a stage prop in the Opera aisle anthe written by
the composer’s Gilbert & Sullivan for the Opera small electric lights were
placed on the actors who were playing fair is the name fairy light stuck and
is still used to this very day did you know that originally candles were used
as decorations that does not sound very safe to me so now you know the reason why we put
lights up and wear fairy lights came from so I always like to teach something
different something unusual so there I was putting up my Christmas lights we
are 35 days away from Christmas I know not everyone in the world celebrates
Christmas but I always get excited you have to have something during your year
to get excited about and to be honest with you Christmas always makes me
excited because I like the color I like the festival I like the food people are
talking to each other even if they don’t normally speak so I always find that
Christmas time is when people who who normally ignore each other like friends
and neighbors maybe so you pass each other in the street but you don’t really
talk at Christmastime everyone says hello so that’s another reason why I
really like Christmastime is because it’s when people start being friendly
towards each other if only we were like that for the whole year wouldn’t it be
lovely hello to the live chat hello kathan Geo
hello to you you are a great teacher I knew you over 10 years ago I really do
feel old today I knew you over 10 years ago now I
have come back to learn from you wow thank you so much from Texas in the USA
thank you very much for joining me again I know I have lots of people who have
been watching for many years and I do appreciate it and of course I have lots
of new people who have joined me English addict by the way is a new series of
live streams I have been doing live streams for over 3 years and I’ve been
making video lessons for over 30 teen years so I’ve been here for quite a
long time hello to everyone I hope I find you in a good humor today humor oh
I like that word this is a very interesting word did you know in its
original form the word humor actually was used in anatomy to describe
the fluids inside the human body even though nowadays we don’t normally use it
in that way however we still have the word humor to describe some of the parts
of the eye for example the vitreous humour and also the aqueous humor so
these are things that are actually part of your eye they are the the moisture
they are the jelly and the liquid that is inside your eye so the word humor is
still used in some parts of anatomy however later on it was believed that a
person’s mental health depended on the condition of their body fluids and
that’s how the word humor became used to mean a person’s mood or the way they
feel I’m not joking that is how this word became used in modern English to
mean being happy or sad you have good humor or you have bad humor so something
very unusual there I hope you enjoyed that a big question to ask you today
because we are talking about one particular subject during today’s live
stream oh now the Queen and Prince Philip the Queen of England and her
husband Prince Philip are celebrating their wedding anniversary today do you
know how many years the Queen of England and her husband
Prince Philip have been married for it’s their anniversary but how long have they
been married we are talking all about this today so first of all I suppose the
best question to ask are you married have you ever got married are you
married now or maybe you were married whoo I’m so
cheeky we have the mystery idiom as well I don’t want to forget about that so I
will show you the mystery idiom straightaway before we start talking
about marriage are you married if not would you like to get married so here it
is today’s mystery idiom just say what you see say what you see on the screen
the mystery idiom it is a well-known phrase in the English language all you
have to do is tell me what it is don’t worry I will give you the answer later
on I will not leave you in suspense for too long so lots of people guessing how
long the Queen of England has been married to her husband 70 says BA Durham
you are near you are very close hello also – Cho Marwa says is it 20 years
it’s a little longer than that so the Queen of England and Prince Philip her
husband have been married for an incredible 72 years well just think
about that 72 years being married that’s a long time I’m not sure if I could last
that long but yes 72 years today the Queen and
Prince Philip got married so the big question is are you married and if not
would you like to get married would you like to become someone’s husband or
someone’s wife so we are talking about marriage marriage is something that
people do when they want to spend their whole life together every day waking up
with the same person eating with the same person talking with the same person
every day forever and ever till death do you part
lab’ is here also allan gear hello to you also to Fernando
who says I see two hands and one boot very nice Marwa says it’s incredible
that the Queen has been married to Philip for over 72 years now so it is
there today so marriage when we talk about marriage we talk about two things
coming together and being together so you might also use the word marriage to
mean two things that are joined so maybe you can have a marriage of music you
might join two different pieces of music together and so you can describe that as
a marriage so it means bringing two things together you bring them together
and then they are joined in some way so a marriage a marriage marriage join
together quite often we see marriage as symbolic and also many people view
marriage as something that is very sacred so maybe a religious ceremony so
these days in certain countries and I have to say that
includes here in the UK marriage is seen as something that you don’t have to do
you don’t so you don’t have to get married although in some countries
getting married is important and you must do it you must get married I
remember when I was in China one of my students said mr. Duncan are you married
will you get married and and I said well I don’t really know I’m not married at
the moment but I might get married and they said mr. Duncan you should get
married or else people here will think you are strange so apparently in China marriage is
something that is well it isn’t a choice you have to do it marriage when we talk
about marriage we can also use the word dead dead dead dead Tudor matrimony
matrimony so again you are getting married
a marriage means that you are in matrimony ooh I like that word matrimony
so if you are in matrimony it means you are in a marriage matrimony the joining
together of two people to exchange their vows and also to express their love for
each other you are in blissful matrimony I like it hello to the live chat again a
man hello also to Pedro hello Pedro nice to
see you also here today Ana is married Ana Rita
says I got married 29 years ago so that’s a very long time
so next year Anna you will be celebrating your 30th your 30th wedding
anniversary that’s a lot of years to be together in a marriage I think so
especially nowadays because some marriages don’t last very long have you
noticed so sometimes a marriage might not last very long hello – sweetness Oh
sweetness says I am in matrimony so you are married so how long have you been
married for have you been married for many years like the Queen of England to
her husband or maybe you are recently married you are a newlywed so when we
say newly weds we mean you have recently got married you are a newlywed you are a
person who has recently got married Fernando says I got married in 1984
again that is a very long time ago so over well over 30 years ago Fernando has
been married hello also to Rosa who makes a guess on the mystery idiom also
we have Christina hello Christina Jackson nice to see you here today we
are talking all about an interesting subject we are talking about marriage
words connected to getting married words that you might use before during and
also after marriage here’s another word we can use oh I like this one
wedlock you are living in wedlock you are in wedlock
that means you are married now this is quite an old-fashioned word but people
still use it even though it sounds like you
something from the 18th century or something from an old romantic novel
like Jane Eyre but it isn’t wedlock is the state of being married you are
enjoying wedlock so you might say that these words are actually joined together
here so you might say you are wedded and you are joined
so wedlock you are joined together in marriage you are married ooh
Doran says now I am not married but I would like to get married when I am 28
Thank You Doran for that that is very precise so maybe you have someone
someone you have your eye on someone you might want to marry one day
it is a hard subject talk about marriage because some people find that this
subject is very sensitive because some people don’t want to get married some
people feel that there might be pressure from their friends or family to get
married in my life I’ve had no pressure from anyone to get
married in any way so I am not married yet although perhaps I should get a move
on really shouldn’t I so what about you if you are not married
then would you like to get married or maybe you don’t want to some people
don’t want to get married if you are married we can say that you are joined
you are joined we can also say joined together you are joined together in
marriage you are joined so you are in a stable permanent relationship you are
joined so when we think of marriage we all
so think of the legal side of it as well so to be honest marriage is also a legal
thing as well so we talk about the the law and the legality of getting married
so it is something that is it’s a bit like signing a contract when you think
about it so when you sign your name on that big day in the register so when you
sign your name and then your wife or husband signs their name that means you
have signed a contract that is binding you are now legally married ooh
interesting hello mr. Duncan
are you a misogynist a misogynist no I can promise you I am NOT a misogynist
that’s a very interesting thing to say but I have nothing against women I I
don’t hate women I don’t dislike women I have nothing against ladies at all so no
I’m not a misogynist thank you very much though for asking that’s an interesting
question probably one of the most interesting questions I’ve ever been
asked hello cute armed’ please discuss the disability issue of disabled people
that is a very good subject and it is one that I might cover in a future
livestream or maybe an individual lesson so thank you cute Ahmed for your
suggestion Erik says I am not married and I am not joined to anyone so Erik so
do you want to stay single do you want to stay unmarried so a person who is not
married might be described as unmarried unmarried they are not married when you
get married we can say that you you get hitched I love this expression
so when you get married we can say that you get hitched you join another person
in matrimony you get hitched now this is something you might hear in British
English when a man is talking about maybe the possibility of getting married
or maybe he is thinking about marrying his girlfriend he might think about
getting hitched so when you hitch it means you join something you join
onto something or maybe you join another person as they go on a journey so you
get hitched so this is a comical way an amusing way of saying get married so I
am thinking of getting hitched my brother-in-law is hitched he has married
my sister you see you get hitched to someone
hitched another way of describing marriage you tie the knot I like this
one this is fun this is nice so when two people get married we can say that they
tie the knot so they are joined together permanently they have tied the knot and
now they are joined together you tie the knot you go to the church and you get
married you tie the knot that’s a great expression once again quite often used
in British English although you might hear it used also in American English as
well anna says marriage is a contract but it also gives legal rights to the
couple yes this is something and I think this is one of the things that many
people think about when they talk about
marriage so before you marry someone there are often things that you have to
consider first of all and I know this is a very delicate subject but I’m going to
say it first of all we have to think about money especially if you are
marrying someone who is wealthy so quite often before a marriage takes place
these things sometimes have to be discussed so maybe a woman is marrying a
wealthy man or of course these days a man might be marrying a wealthy woman so
quite often they will have to make agreements they will have to sort out
what happens if the marriage ends so even before you get married you have to
talk about what happens if the marriage doesn’t work if you decide that you
don’t want to stay with that person so money quite often is a very sensitive
issue when it comes to talking about getting married and marriage Belarusian
asks mr. Duncan you talk from time at time to time about marriage I wonder why
there is no reason the only reason why I’m talking about it today is because
the Queen of England and her husband are celebrating their 72nd birthday wedding
gay anniversary can you believe it Dina says my parents have celebrated their
40th anniversary this year their anniversary was on the 9th of February
Thank You Lina again 40 years is a long time now normally when a couple have
been married for a certain period of time they will often exchange gifts so
when you have been married for five years ten years 20 years
thirty years forty years there are often gifts that are exchanged between the
couple so on your 40th wedding anniversary I wonder what you will
exchange because each special anniversary has something connected to
it normally something that is given that is symbolic it is a sign of your
marriage lasting for a very long time Luis Mendez hello Luis nice to see you
here nowadays a couple might live together for 10 or 15 years after this
period they might decide to marry two or three oh they might decide to marry and
then two or three years later they get divorced yes
so sometimes marriage can be a little bit too much of a commitment so when you
get married you are actually making a commitment so when you make a commitment
it means you are swearing that this thing will stay the way it is you make a
commitment so the husband will promise I will love and cherish you forever and
ever for better or worse and richer or poorer till death us do part
so you might call marriage a commitment however many people feel better not
getting married so sometimes a relationship can actually be more
enjoyable if you are not married don’t ask me why everyone has their own
personal opinion of marriage so some people think that getting married puts
too much pressure on the relationship so some people decide to stay single or
maybe they live together and they behave as if they are married even though they
are not so some people find that marriage
creates too much pressure they feel as if the commitment is too big they feel
maybe they are tied to the relationship so sometimes yes I think so
and quite often and here’s another thing that I’ve noticed I always feel a little
sad when a couple get married and they spend lots and lots of money on the
wedding and the dress they spend thousands of pounds on the beautiful
church service and they have a very expensive honeymoon they go away on
holiday and then about a year later they split up and I think that’s such a shame
so sometimes you don’t need to have lots of big expensive things to show that you
care for another person sometimes you can have a very simple wedding something
that isn’t expensive or extravagant mr. Duncan
what is your live stream schedule time I will show you right now because you have
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very nice I like the comments by the way Eric says as a side effect of this
lesson some relationships might be established and mr. Duncan will be like
a godfather who I see oh I’m not sure about that oh dear
now you might be surprised to find that relationships can be created anywhere
quite often people will meet in social situations maybe at work it is not
unusual nowadays for people who work in the same office or work in the same
company they actually develop a relationship so it might happen it might
Mara Juarez I agree mr. Duncan the wedding should be nice and simple I
think so I think that’s nice what about mr. Steve
your assistant mr. Steve what about mr. Steve what are you saying there I’m not
sure maybe you can explain what do we usually do at a bachelor party before a
marriage takes place well quite often the man so when a man is getting married
quite often his friends will will give a party they will throw a party for him
and we call this a bachelor party so a bachelor party is quite often a party
that happens maybe the day before the wedding takes place so of course you’ve
seen the films The Hangover Part one two and also three so there is a very good
series of movies all about a group of guys who go on bachelor
parties or here in the UK we quite often call it stag night stag night
so stag is like the male deer with the antlers or the horns so a stag night is
a bachelor party so quite often men will get together and they will throw a party
for their friend before he gets married before he decides to get wet so when you
get married we can say that you get wed wed so wed is a way of describing the
action of getting married you are going to a wedding you are going to marry your
sweetheart you get wet you get wed and of course when two people get married we
describe them as husband and wife husband and wife so the male is the
husband and the lady is the wife although these days of course we live in
very cosmopolitan times so not always it’s not always husband and wife
sometimes it might be husband and husband or wife and wife Oh mr. Duncan
so husband and wife the title given to the people getting married and we might
describe the couple as being happy so we might describe them as the happy couple
oh look there they are oh the happy couple so where are the
happy couple maybe you can’t find them and you are asking where are they where
are the happy couple so the happy couple means the couple
that have just got married the happy couple isn’t that nice
here’s an interesting phrase not everyone what’s wants to get married and
there are many reasons why you might not want to get married
some people consider marriage as a thing they don’t want to do oh they
might describe marriage as the ball and chain the ball and chain which I will
demonstrate for you right now so some people think that marriage is a
little bit like a ball and chain something that holds you in place
you can’t escape so the ball in chain you might describe your wife as the ball
and chain someone you can’t escape you can’t get away from they are described
as the ball and chain we can also use ball and chain to describe any situation
that is hard to escape from maybe a situation you can’t get out of so ball
and chain is one of the ways of describing maybe the person you’re
married to or maybe the action of being married the ball and chain hmm I’m sure I will get into trouble for
showing this one but quite often people will say yes I don’t want to get married
I don’t want to have the ball and chain I want to stay free and single mmm
quite often when you go to a wedding if you are in the audience watching there
are many things that will take place at the front of the church or maybe the
place where the wedding is taking place wedding vows these are things that are
said so wedding of course the wedding is taking place valves are the promises
that you will make so wedding vows basically means the promises you give
during the wedding you will make promises to your husband
or wife as I mentioned earlier on you might say things like I promise to love
and cherish you I promise to be by your side forever and ever
through sickness and health through richness and poverty till death us do
part so your wedding vows are the promises that you make to each other
during the wedding ceremony you will make your valves sometimes the valves
will be traditional or sometimes certainly nowadays a lot of people like
to make their own wedding vows so they will write their own wedding vows the
promises that they give to their partner as they are getting married
we call them the wedding vows very nice Irene I think Irene is complaining Irene
the ball and chain such a terrible thing III don’t think so by the way I don’t
think that marriage is like a ball in chain so I don’t think that so don’t
worry I agree with you Anna the Irene sorry Anna says the wedding ceremony is
also a show sometimes yes normally after the wedding takes place other things
will happen they will before a person gets married quite often they will spend
time with the person they are going to marry they spend time getting to know
each other and they also spend time arranging the wedding we can say that
they get engaged so when people get engaged it means they are really
starting to commit to getting married they are in the process of arranging
their marriage they get engaged so to be engaged means that this person is your
intended the person you are going to marry because now you are engaged you
get engaged so maybe your boyfriend or girlfriend might propose to you isn’t
that romantic so maybe your boyfriend will buy a lovely ring and one night he
will take you for a walk in the park and the moon is shining in the sky
everything is beautiful and romantic and then he gets down on one knee and he
says darling we have been together now for almost two years and I can’t tell
you how happy I feel being with you would you like to be my wife I am asking
you would you like to be my wife I am proposing to you would you like to
marry me so the husband often will propose get engaged this is a big step
by the way this isn’t an easy thing to do
especially nowadays so nowadays whenever anyone says that they have got engaged
people just assume the wedding will happen but you might also find that
sometimes the engagement will be broken off you might break off the engagement
which means you have changed your mind which means that you have decided to
break the engagement you no longer want to get married to this person you have
changed your mind so you might get engaged but that
doesn’t mean that you are going to get married it doesn’t Ahmed says mr. Duncan I warned you the
second you give them a ring they fall out of warranty oh I see that sounds
like a very stern warning hmm I might make a note of that let me just write
that down beware that once you give them the ring the warranty will end I think
that means that you can’t return the ring that’s it you have made the
commitment forever and ever I think so Lewis says in a married couple there are
always ups and downs yes I think so there are always problems in any
relationship there is no such thing as a perfect marriage it isn’t really about
the problems it is a it is that actually about the way you solve the problems it
is about the way you create the harmony between you in the relationship so
whatever have you stay calm and you don’t start
fighting and arguing so there is no such thing as a perfect marriage it doesn’t
exist all relationships have their ups and downs
they all have their problems but sometimes it is very hard to solve those
problems sometimes the couple do not want the problem to be solved
sometimes they are looking for an excuse to end the marriage so yes there are
many ways of talking about that Helena says mr. Duncan what are the
mother-in-law’s like in England that is a terrible subject there is a joke
especially in British English and maybe where you are as well but certainly in
this culture we often joke about the mother-in-law so the mother-in-law is
the mother of the bride and quite often the mother-in-law can be quite
domineering or bossy and of course quite often the the mother of the husband can
also be quite dominating and bossy so the mother-in-law we often refer to it
as the the bride’s mother rather than the husband’s mother so many men
complain about their their wife’s mother and she is called the mother-in-law
there are many jokes concerning the mother-in-law many many jokes exist
Anna says the perfect marriage does not exist I think so yes there is no such
thing as the perfect marriage and I can prove this because even if you have lots
of money it doesn’t necessarily mean your
marriage will be lovely and harmonious and long so if you look at famous film
stars actors they get together they have very expensive marriages they spend
millions on their wedding reception they spend so much money and then a couple of
years later they get divorced and then they fight over who gets the money and
who gets the big house who gets the beach house
who gets to look after the children so even though you have lots of money it
doesn’t mean your marriage is going to be long and stable not at all
so when you get married quite often you will have a church service so when we
talk about traditional marriage it means you will go to the church you
will go to a church and you will stand in front of a group of people and they
will be the witnesses so they will witness your marriage taking place so
there is a church service also these days in some countries including this
country you could just go to a register office so when you go to a register
office it means you you don’t have the
religious ceremony you don’t have the vicar you don’t have the priest you
don’t have the church you just go along to the local council office and then you
register your marriage and that’s it so you just go into a room and you sign a
piece of paper and that’s it you are husband and wife
so Register Office is a set simple and quick way of getting married
and it’s quite popular these days we often talk about the bride and groom so
when we go to a wedding we will see the lady and the gentleman the bride and
groom so this is the official title that we will give to the two people getting
married so the bride the lady and the groom the
gentlemen although nowadays of course you can have two brides and two grooms
that sort of thing I think you know what I mean
exchange rings oh yes I think this is very romantic actually one of the most
romantic parts of getting married I think is exchanging the Rings isn’t that
lovely so quite often they will both give rings to each other although that
doesn’t always happen so the man will put a ring on the woman’s finger I’m not
sure which one it is which finger is it you can tell I’m not
married because I can’t remember which fit I think it’s this finger that’s it
this finger was it this finger I think it’s this finger is it this finger is
this the finger that you put the wedding ring on because I’ve never been married
as you can tell so yes you exchanged rings quite often both of
the people involved will exchange rings which i think is lovely so when you
exchange rings you often do this as you are giving your vowels so you will make
your promises and then you will exchange your rings which is very nice after the
wedding has taken place there will often be a dinner reception so there will be a
party after the wedding has taken place sometimes the wedding and the dinner
reception are in the same place sometimes they are separate so you might
go for a dinner reception at Hotel or a large hall and then you will
sit down together and eat a meal so a dinner reception is normally what
follows the wedding hello – Tan Cheng hello also – Alamgir the finger that you
get married with is the ring finger oh yes so a wedding ring is also a sign
that that person is no longer available so you might see I don’t know you might
be working in an office and then one day this this really sexy guy comes in and
you think oh oh he’s quite nice III think I might marry him one day and
then you look on his finger and he’s got a wedding ring so that’s it the show is
over no way the same thing applies to a gentleman so maybe he sees a beautiful
lady come into the office anything so oh I like her but then you see the wedding
ring and then it’s all over hello – Zhang Chaya
Orszag iya hello to you pal Mira I remember the lesson where you and mr.
Steve are at a wedding you should show an excerpt yes that is very interesting
one of my earliest videos I think it was 2007
I made a lesson all about going to a wedding that’s right I went with mr.
Steve the only thing I remember about that video is I was very fat at the time
I don’t know why but I I looked very fat on the video that’s that’s all I
remember about that marriage takes a lot of money dinner
photos invitations guests and of course the honeymoon ooh the honeymoon happens
when everything else has ended so after the church service after the reception
after the dinner the couple will go away on their
honeymoon the honeymoon gives them a chance to get
to know each other closely that’s all I’m saying
when a person has been married for many years they will often celebrate the date
in which they became married their wedding anniversary that is the date
when you got married so every year the couple will often celebrate their
wedding anniversary they will celebrate the day when they got married
so wedding anniversary is the date that you got married so as the years go by
you will continue to celebrate your wedding anniversary however sometimes
the husband might forget it does happen so sometimes the husband might forget
that it is their wedding anniversary oh that is not good of course it would be
fair to say that not all marriages last not all marriages are happy ever after
not all marriages are fairytales sometimes the couple will split up it
doesn’t last unfortunately they decide that they
can’t be together anymore because they keep fighting and arguing and
disagreeing so they decide to split up they decide to end the marriage I know
in some cultures splitting up in a marriage is is not allowed however
here in the UK marriages sometimes end the couple decide to split up so even if
you are in a relationship where you are not married you split up so the end of a
relationship whether you are married or not you split up so the couple decide to
part company they go their separate ways they split up and when you get married
you have a marriage however when your marriage comes to an end you divorce you
get a divorce you decide that you want to separate permanently so you stop the
marriage you bring the marriage to a close you
get a divorce you decide to split up you end the marriage you divorce again in
some countries divorce is not allowed here in the UK
divorce is allowed in fact you will be amazed how many people get married and
then a short time later they get divorced they decide that maybe getting
married was not a good idea so they get divorced my parents got divorced many
years ago so my mother and father actually got divorced
many years ago hello to Zakia when a couple split up it is a very sad moment
for both people for the couple I think so there is nothing sadder than at the
end of a relationship any type of relationship even friendship
so when friendship comes to an end and quite often you might find that marriage
is very similar to friendship so when a friendship ends well a married
and it is a very sad thing indeed I think so Luis Mendez says my wedding
anniversary was last Monday but my wife and I are going to the restaurant
next Saturday to celebrate the event well I think that’s a good idea so you
don’t always celebrate the anniversary on the same day so maybe there are
reasons why you can’t do it on that day so maybe you do it later on another date
maybe you have a romantic dinner or maybe you go away for a trip a nice
holiday together rhs says oh I split up after 43 years that is a long time to be
together in fact I always think that if you’ve been together for a long time
it’s quite sad where when the marriage comes to an end because you’ve had all
of that time to get to know each other and to bond so there must be many things
that you you love about that person so when the relationship ends after a very
long time I always think that’s very sad quite tragic in fact quite tragic Anna I love oh I love Tuscany I see I
don’t know did we mention Tuscany I don’t think so I’ve always wanted to go
to Tuscany I loved I loved all of that part of the world in fact hello
the miracle life is the wedding moment the miracle life the miracle of life so
some people grow up looking for that perfect person to marry to be with for
the rest of their life in some cultures of course the parents will arrange the
marriage so maybe in some cultures or maybe people with certain religious
beliefs will actually arrange the marriage as well so that does happen
there are some happy divorces does sound unbelievable right yes I
think so I would say from my point of view my parents divorce was not a happy
one it really wasn’t and that’s all I’m
saying about that Alamgir yes it is very sad when a couple get divorced and they
have children I think so I think one of the most difficult parts of getting
divorced is when there are children involved as well yes I think so so yes
that can be a bad thing a very sad situation so we are talking a lot about
marriage however some people do not get married some people decide that they
want to stay single and here is a word that describes a man who wants to stay
single so when we talk about a bachelor we are talking about a person who stays
single a man who stays single he does not get married he decides that for the
whole of his life he is going to stay unmarried he will be a bachelor forever
so when you decide not to get married and some people do some people choose
not to get married they might have relationships but they never get married
so they remain they stay a bachelor I think there was a song wasn’t there
called bachelor boy by Cliff Richard oh I am a bachelor boy and that’s the way
I’ll be bachelor so when a man stays single he does not get married he is a
bachelor he stays alone when a woman decides that she doesn’t want to get
married she wants to stay on her own we can describe her as a spinster oh dear I
don’t like that word I don’t know why that word always sounds
very negative to me spinster an unmarried woman mrs.
Frobisher she sits in her wedding dress surrounded by dust a spinster is a
person who never gets married a female a woman who doesn’t get married she stays
single for all of her life and quite often this word is used negatively as
well spinster spinster and of course we can
also say single a person stays single so if a person is single
they are unmarried they are not attached they are not joined to anyone they are
not even in a relationship of any sort they are unattached they are single they
are without a partner they have no partner in their life they
are single young free and single that’s almost it for today by the way I will be
going soon but don’t worry I am back with you on Friday I will be with you at
the end of the week with more of this English addict live for those who love
the beautiful language that is English and if you are like me you are quite
likely an English addict as well thank you very much Alan Gere mr. Duncan what
does it called if a woman is not married yes we say spinster spinster unmarried
an unmarried woman is a spinster of course nowadays we also used the word
bachelorette so a bachelorette is a woman who is unmarried although she
might be looking for a partner you see it’s a little bit like those reality TV
shows where the lady is looking for her perfect man or maybe of course a man
might be looking for his perfect woman so he is a bachelor and the woman might
be a bachelor echt Thank You mr. Duncan thank you to Nam Thank You Chu I am
going in a moment I hope you’ve enjoyed today’s livestream it’s been a little
different as we look outside things are looking quite lovely at the moment
autumn is definitely in the air even though it is freezing cold it really is
so cold at the moment I can’t begin to tell you how cold it is it really feels
as if winter has arrived Tania Tania asks a very interesting question what do
we call a person whose husband has died now I haven’t got that written down
however the word is Widow widow Widow means a person whose spouse or partner
has died the person they are married to so if a woman loses her husband she is a
widow Widow and if the husband loses his wife he is a widower widower so I hope
that explains that and there’s an interesting word I just used spouse
spouse so spouse means the person you are married to spouse can I introduce
you to my spouse it is a very old-fashioned word for the person you
are married to as the Matt hello as a matt says I have only just connected and
it is finished soon well yes I am with you on Sunday Wednesday and Friday 2pm UK time so it is important the you make a note of the time 2pm UK
time and then you can work out what the time difference is between your country
and England and then hopefully you will join me on my next livestream which is
this Friday from 2 p.m. UK time thank you very much for your lovely company
today whether you are married whether you are single whether you are still
looking for that perfect person who knows one day prince charming or
princess charming might come along this is mr. Duncan in the birthplace of
English saying thanks for watching me today I really love being here with you
more than you realize in fact and of course until Friday 2pm UK time you know what’s coming next yes you do… ta ta for now 😎

Michael Martin

7 Responses

  1. TIME CODES – click on the blue time codes to skip forward to…
    MARRIAGE + WEDDING WORDS – 24:14 BALL and CHAIN – 47:42 DIVORCE/SPLIT UP – 1:06:09

  2. Give someone the boot? I think you gave me the boot because my name is not more blue. Have I been a bad moderator Misterduncan?

  3. Hello mr duncan, I was wondering what are you going to teach us and I must say it was intresting,time went so quickly.I think few things about marriage are common in all culture.it's better to keep a marriage simple and minimal. thanks a lot from karachi, Pakistan

  4. I'm almost sure what the mistery idiom is, although I'm not going to say what it is, in order to avoid spoiling it. BTW: Great lesson, teacher!

  5. After the whole day at work, yesterday in the evening I enjoied this fresh fix of English Addict. Misterduncan looks his best, thanks to the magic power of Christmas on its way. How's your website construction going? I hope it's going well, I'm very curious! Thank for your lesson!

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